helping someone shouldn’t be about ‘skill’, it should be about respecting them
People shouldn’t have to give up power […] in seeking whatever they’ve defined for themselves as help. People should get to define what help means to them. People should not have to subject themselves to the assumption that they are wrong and that the helper is always right.
They described the ways in which they are ‘not allowed to love’ […]
While love is often commonly associated with ideas of desire and of wanting, it can be as much about giving to others as receiving. When regarded as passive recipients of care, they are not allowed to give, not allowed to love.