Catastrophe tends to be composed not of a monolithic event but of a welter of little incidents, many of which bear no apparent relationship to one another – unless we look long and close.
Language, in ordering these incidents into recognizable patterns, counteracts disorientation and disintegration.
This process of making sense of a flood of random data also produces the impression – generally quite groundless – of control, which may save one’s sanity even though it can’t save one’s own or anyone else’s life.
[Myths based on absolutes] are true some of the time, or even lots of the time, but they do not capture everyone’s experiences.
The problem is that when a whole stack of people agree on an absolute […] it creates a culture where people who don’t fit are not invited to share their experience. If that culture becomes rigid and deeply embedded, then people who don’t fit will be ignored and excluded even when they do. […]
Frameworks are really valuable […] but I believe that holding any framework too tightly, or trying to force a framework into a situation or onto a person when it isn’t fitting, when it’s creating instead of alleviating stress is wrong and harmful! Some people don’t get stressed, they just exit the supports […] alienated from the community […]